The Lesbian Strap on Guide

Ready to take your pleasure to the next level? Whether you're a seasoned strap-on connoisseur or a curious first-timer, this guide has everything you need to know. From picking the perfect toy to nailing those deep, toe-curling thrusts, we’re here to make sure you and your lover get the most out of every pulse-racing moment.

What is a Strap-On?

A strap-on is a wearable dildo designed for hands-free penetration, giving you the freedom to explore, tease, and drive your partner wild. Popular with lesbians and anyone eager to switch up bedroom dynamics, it’s the ultimate way to take control – or surrender it. And if you're thinking about role reversal, check out our guide to pegging for even more ways to play.

How to Use a Strap-On

Most strap-ons come with a harness and a dildo, though some sets are all-in-one. If yours comes in separate pieces, slide your chosen dildo through the O-ring on your harness, strap it on snugly and adjust for the perfect fit. A snug, secure fit is the difference between a smooth ride and an awkward slip, so make sure it’s locked in place before you start putting it to good use. Before you go all in, set the stage. The right dildo, a generous helping of lube and a little teasing goes a long way. And take your time. Anticipation makes everything hotter.

Pick the Right Dildo for the Ride

Not all dildos are created equal, and when you’re strapping in for a wild night, the right one makes all the difference. Whether you’re after something lifelike, textured or packed with vibration, our ultimate dildo guide can help you choose. Some of our favourites for strap-on play include:

If you're on the receiving end, you get the final say – size, shape, texture and firmness should all work for your pleasure. And if you’re both game for swapping roles, why not invest in a couple of options to keep things fresh? Variety is the spice of life after all.

Find a Harness That Holds Up

A strap-on is only as good as the harness keeping it in place. A loose, flimsy fit can turn a hot session into a frustrating fumble, so invest in something that holds up under pressure.
The best harnesses should:

  • Fit comfortably and securely
  • Hold your dildo firmly in place
  • Feel sexy to wear (because confidence is hot)
Adjustable designs give you more control over comfort, and higher-quality materials make for a smoother ride. Trust us, the right fit is worth every penny when you’re putting in the work.

Lube Up and Let Loose

A strap-on doesn’t self-lubricate, and a dry ride is a one-way ticket to discomfort. A slick, wet glide keeps things smooth so some high-quality lube is a must.

  • Water-based lubes: Safe for all toys, easy to clean
  • Silicone lubes: Last longer but can’t be used with silicone toys (check the label before you go wild)
Drizzle it on, spread it out, and let every thrust slide in with effortless pleasure. If you’re not dripping, you’re not doing it right. Want to know more? Check out our guide to using lube.

You Don’t Have to Stick to One Position

Forget the tired old stereotype of ‘giver’ and ‘receiver.’ In sapphic sex, the power play is all yours to control. Maybe you’re in the mood to be taken one night and to take charge the next. Or maybe you prefer an equal exchange of slow, teasing thrusts. Whatever gets you both off, don’t be afraid to mix it up and explore new sensations.
Experimenting with different positions, angles, and even harness-free options can turn a good session into a mind-blowing one. So, who's on top tonight?

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Keep It Dirty, But Keep It Clean

The filthiest nights still need a little hygiene. Unwashed toys can spread STIs, so whether you’re sharing or flying solo, a quick rinse isn’t enough – give your strap-on a proper clean after each use.

  • Use condoms for an easier cleanup and extra glide
  • Disinfect silicone dildos with a toy cleaner
  • Store your harness and toys separately to keep them fresh for the next round
Taking care of your toys means they’ll take care of you – time after time.

Confidence is the Biggest Turn-On

New to strap-ons? It’s normal to feel a bit awkward at first, but the more you wear it, the more natural it’ll feel.

  • Try it on before the action starts to get used to the weight and movement
  • Adjust your harness for a secure fit, so nothing throws you off your rhythm
  • Keep it within reach – nothing kills the mood like digging through a drawer mid-foreplay
And most importantly, don’t overthink it. Whether you’re giving or receiving, enjoying the moment is what makes strap-on play unforgettable.

So, ready to take charge? Explore our full range of strap-ons, dildos and harnesses to find your perfect fit. The only limit is how far you’re willing to go.
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