What is Pegging?

What Does Pegging Mean?

Pegging is the act of one partner taking the lead in penetrative anal sex using a strap-on. While it’s often associated with women using a harness on their male partners, that’s far from the only way to enjoy it. Whether you’re queer, trans, non-binary or just looking to mix things up, pegging can be a thrilling way to explore power dynamics, penetration and pleasure. For those already dabbling in anal play, pegging can be a natural next step. Maybe you’ve teased with fingers, a tongue or a toy, and now you're both craving something more. Maybe it’s about exploring dominance and submission. Or maybe it’s just about the simple joy of experiencing something new together. Still unsure? The key is open conversation. Talk about what turns you on, what you’re curious about and how far you want to go. A little honesty goes a long way – and could lead to your hottest night yet.

What does pegging feel like?

For the receiving partner, pegging is an electrifying mix of mental and physical pleasure. Giving up control can be intensely erotic – especially for those used to taking charge in the bedroom. And if you’ve got a prostate, that hidden pleasure centre is packed with nerve endings that can make orgasms deeper, stronger and utterly explosive. The best way to find out? Start slow. Tease with fingers or a slim toy before upgrading to something more substantial. If it feels good (and chances are, it will), you’re in for a wild ride.

“Does pegging make you gay?”

Short answer: No. Long answer: Sexuality isn’t defined by what you like in bed – it’s about who you’re attracted to. Enjoying anal play has nothing to do with whether you’re into men, women, or anyone else. Pleasure is pleasure.

Why do men like to be pegged?

The list is long, but let’s just say the combo of prostate stimulation, submission and the thrill of something totally new is a major turn-on. Some men crave the sensation, others love the idea of their partner taking charge, and some just want to hand over the reins for once.

Does pegging hurt?

It shouldn’t – if you do it right. Like any good backdoor adventure, pegging needs lube. Lots of it. Start small, go slow and listen to each other. With patience and practice, it can feel incredible for both of you.

Talk dirty (and honestly) – Before you strap in, have an open chat about what you both want. What excites you? What are your limits? The more you talk, the better it’ll be. Bonus points if you whisper exactly what you’re going to do while you’re at it.

Pick the perfect strap-on – Your weapon of choice matters. If the receiving partner is new to anal, start with a slimmer toy before working up to something girthier. A harness lets you switch things up as comfort grows – and lets the giving partner take full control over the action.

Lube lube lube – Pegging without lube? Not a chance. We mention this in our anal sex guide for beginners, but lube plays a vital part in ensuring a pain-free time. A good water-based or silicone lube keeps things slick, smooth and oh-so-pleasurable. Don’t skimp on it. Just pick the right lube for your toys, remember you shouldn’t use silicone-based lube on silicone toys! Read our lube guide to find the right match for your toy.

Warm things up – Jumping straight in is a rookie mistake. Warm up to pegging with foreplay, just like you would any type of penetrative sex. Tease first – use your fingers, a smaller toy or your tongue to get your partner worked up. The more turned on they are, the better it’ll feel.

Get things squeaky clean – As with any sort of anal play, cleanliness is important. A quick shower works wonders for confidence, but if you’re nervous about being a party pooper on your pegging session, an anal douche can help put your mind at ease. Always remember not to share toys that haven’t been thoroughly washed first.

Relax and enjoy – Easier said than done, right? But pegging isn’t a race. Take your time, play and listen to each other. If something doesn’t feel right, adjust. If it does? Keep going. The more you practice, the better it gets. Feeling fully relaxed will make the whole experience more fun for both of you. It’s a new adventure, and things might not be smooth sailing at first, but that’s completely normal. Just enjoy yourselves. And if at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.

We hope you have found this guide to pegging useful – pegging can be an amazing and intimate way for you and your partner to try something a little different in the bedroom and explore each other’s fantasies and desires. Just stay open with each other, experiment and have fun finding out what works for you. So, grab your partner, grab some lube and buckle up for an incredibly pleasurable and intimate experience.

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Love,
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