There are many types of Tantric Massage, but they all follow the core principles of Tantric Sex . It’s all about focussing your mind, and your partner’s mind, on the different sensations you feel throughout your body, and to prevent rushing towards an orgasm – pleasure is the ultimate goal here.
Similar to mindfulness, Tantric Sex allows you to switch off from the background noise in your life and concentrate on being completely in the moment with your partner.
Tantric Massage is good for you in many ways. The health benefits of orgasms resulting from Tantric Massage and Tantric Sex are well known, but there are other benefits too...
Step away from the bed and arrange cushions and blankets on the floor either in the bedroom or living room. Scented candles, low lighting and a glass of wine can help to lower your inhibitions and get you in the mood for something new.
Connect with your partner by synchronising your breathing. Breathing is key to both tantric rituals and pleasure. Breathe in as your partner breathes out, and vice versa. If your mind starts to wander, bring it back to your body by focussing on your breathing.
Touching your partner away from the traditional erogenous zones allows for a gradual build-up of sexual energy between you both, using skin on skin contact.
Begin with light strokes. You can use your finger tip, or a prop such as silk scarves, feather tickler or a leather flogger. The point here is to relax your partner. As you feel them beginning to relax you can start to intensify the strokes, alternating between gentle tickling and firm scratches.
When you sense your partner is relaxed and present you can begin the massage. Pour some good quality massage oil into your hand and begin the massage. Using your entire hand (not just finger tips), make contact with the heart of your palm against their skin, then relax the fingers and glide your hands over your partner’s body with your fingers trailing after.
Remember to treat the whole body as an erogenous zone and don't become fixated on breasts and genitals. Explore fingers and toes, head to toe. If you are performing the massage, try to switch on your senses to what it feels like to touch. How does their skin feel under your palm? Take in the sights, smells and physical sensations yourself too. Stay connected and enjoy!
Some sex toys are designed to be used in different ways during foreplay and tantric massage.
The My Viv Pebble Personal Massager has a curved tip which can be used on the nipples, clitoris or any other area of your body that you find pleasurable. With three speeds and seven pulse patterns for you to explore, you can find what works best for you.
Remember the most important thing is to relax and enjoy yourself, this is a chance to get away from the stress of your life, and away from the race-to-orgasm sex we’ve become used to having. Sex is something to enjoy, take your time and do it right!
One of the great things about introducing a little Tantra into your sex life is that the practice can lead to some of the most mind-blowing orgasms you’ll ever have!
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