What is Mutual Masturbation?

Let’s be honest - guessing what gets your partner off can be a minefield. Whether it’s fingers fumbling for the clit or a hand job that misses the mark, touching someone else’s parts isn’t always second nature. That’s where mutual masturbation comes in. And it’s hotter than you think.

MMutual masturbation is when two people get off together. That might mean watching each other stroke, tease and play solo – or getting hands-on and doing the hard work for each other. It’s raw, unfiltered and a brilliant way to learn what actually gets your partner off.

Why Try Mutual Masturbation?

Think about it: no one makes your morning cuppa quite like you do. The same goes for orgasms. You know your body best, and your partner knows theirs, but when you let each other in on the secrets, that’s when things really start to get wet and wild.

Watching your lover pleasure themselves is pure filth in the best possible way. You get a front-row seat to everything they love: the pressure, the rhythm, the sounds. And then? You steal their moves. Use that intel to touch them just right. It’s sex-ed meets porn and you’re both starring in it. Mutual masturbating turns getting off into a joint performance – sweaty, messy, intimate and seriously hot.

The Do’s and Don’ts of Mutual Masturbation

  • Do : Watch and learn. This isn’t just about turning each other on, it’s about getting smarter, slicker and sexier in bed.
  • Do : Be honest. If your sweet spot’s begging for a buzz from behind or a double whammy of tongue and toy, say so.
  • Do : Use their favourite toy. That bedside drawer staple isn’t competition, it’s your new co-star.
  • Do : Enjoy the view. If they’re lost in pleasure, sit back, soak it up and take mental notes.
  • Don’t : Fake it. Show your real moves, not some porn parody. If you’re not into it, don’t pretend – they’ll only copy it.
  • Don’t : Rush in. Let your partner guide you. When they want a hand, you’ll know.
  • Don’t : Make it all about you. There’s room for both of you in the spotlight.
  • Don’t : Be shy. Dirty talk, moans, fingers in mouths – it’s all part of the fun.

How to Try Mutual Masturbation

Forget scheduling it in like it’s a work meeting. The hottest mutual masturbation moments happen when things are already heating up. Slide the suggestion in mid-kiss. Murmur in their ear, “Wanna show me how you touch yourself?” Then sit back, unzip and enjoy putting on a show.

Whether you go for a mirror session, lay side-by-side with your hands roaming, or try a little top-and-tail (yes, that innocent sleepover term now comes with a whole new meaning), the trick is being able to watch, touch and tease all at once. Try teasing each other while still fully clothed. Or pull out your favourite toys and go head-to-head. Use eye contact, filthy whispers or take a hands-on approach – whatever gets you panting. The more you explore, the filthier it gets.

Mutual masturbation isn’t just a side dish; it’s a full-course feast of hands, toys, moans and mess. It’s intimacy without pressure, exploration without guesswork. And when done right, it’s downright filthy.

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