How To Make Sex Romantic

Sex can be so many different things to different people. It can be hot, sexy, comforting, exciting, naughty and nice, all in equal measure. But there’s a type of sex that’s important for all couples to make time for: romantic sex.

Although some people like to go for the typical route, romantic sex doesn't necessarily mean roses on the bed, champagne and the missionary position with lots of eye contact. Some couples find the trust required to enjoy BDSM sex romantic, and others find romance in the excitement of trying new positions and toys together.

Romance is all about communication and understanding the needs and wants of your partner. In fact, only 9% of couples who felt uncomfortable talking about sex reported that they felt sexually satisfied.

Start outside the bedroom

We don’t mean having sex anywhere but the bedroom (although we know this can be really fun!), instead it’s understanding that sex isn’t just about intercourse, and more about everything surrounding it. This means open and honest communication between you and your partner.

It might not sound like the sexiest thing in the world to sit down and have a in-depth conversation, but it’s important to understand that your partner is not a mind-reader. As much as we’d like to think that our lover is so in tune with us that they automatically know what drives us wild, the only real way to get what you want is to be open and honest.

Talking about sex may feel uncomfortable or embarrassing, but it’s a vital part of a healthy and romantic sex life. If there’s something new you’d like to try, if you feel like you’re left unsatisfied in some areas or you’d simply like to be a bit more open about your desires, take the time to have a relaxed, no-judgment chat with your partner.

Atmosphere and location

Your messy bedroom might not look like the most romantic of locations, but with a change of bedsheets, some fluffy pillows and a few special touches, it can be transformed. Sexy scented candles, mood music, and you’re sexiest lingerie set will make you both feel in the mood.

Why not take it one step further and book a naughty weekend away? A change of location and knowing you’re making shared memories will add an extra layer of romance to your time together.

The power of intimacy

One of the key components to romance is intimacy. Only when you really feel like you can trust your partner can you really explore the different ways to be intimate with each other.

Romantic sex, no matter what you’re into, is all about taking it slow and building up the tension. Lots of touching is always a good way to get your partner in the mood, followed by long and slow kisses. Why not try a soft, slow massage before a night of romance and intimacy?

Explore together

Many couples find the excitement of trying new things together the most romantic type of sex. Exploring different ways to give each other pleasure can add a whole new layer to your sex life, and help you to experience trust and romance like never before.

If you’d like to enhance your sex life but don’t know where to start, take a look at our Essential Sex Guides. We cover everything from beginner’s bondange to couples sex toys, and can help all kinds couples; from naughty novices to erotic experts.