Busting Big O Myths on National Orgasm Day

National Orgasm Day is the perfect time to bust some of the biggest orgasm myths that might be cramping your style. From outdated beliefs like everyone should climax the same way to thinking orgasms are just physical, we’re here to set the record straight. From misconceptions around the female orgasm and beyond, we’re paving the way for a more satisfying sexual experience.

Common orgasm myths

Myth: Partners should orgasm at the same time

Reality: While it can be super hot when that happens, it’s not the be-all and end-all of great sex. Everyone’s body does its own thing so instead of stressing about perfect timing, focus on enjoying each other and what feels good. Having fun and feeling connected whatever the rhythm may be is what it’s all about, it doesn’t matter who cums first.

Myth: Orgasms are only physical

Reality: Orgasms are so much more than just physical. They’re like a full-body workout for pleasure. They release oxytocin and endorphins, get your heart pumping, relax muscles, and leave you feeling glowing and connected to yourself/a partner. It's the ultimate feel-good experience.

Myth: Orgasms should happen quickly

Reality: Expecting orgasms on a tight schedule sets you up for disappointment. The truth? Every orgasm is unique. Taking your sweet time and enjoying the journey is where the magic happens. Rushing? Mood killer! Reaching climax is all about the pleasure journey, not the destination.

Myth: Orgasms are intense and explosive

Reality: They can be, but they're not always fireworks and grand finales. Sometimes the big O is like a quiet, satisfying sigh. It’s about quality, not always quantity. Ditch the Hollywood expectations and savor every moment of your sometimes subtle, but always amazing experience.

Myth: If you don’t cum when you have sex, something is wrong with you

Reality: Certain medications and factors like stress or health conditions can mess with your ability to climax, and there’s a percentage of people who can’t climax at all. It's frustrating, but totally normal. If it’s a recurring issue, talking openly with your doctor is key - they can help find solutions that work for you.

Myths around the male orgasm

Myth: Men’s orgasms are always intense and explosive

Reality: Let’s be honest, not all orgasms are fireworks. Just like women, men can have a mix of experiences, from intense, mind-blowing O’s to subtle and mild. Just because it isn’t always overwhelming doesn’t mean it isn’t fun though!

Myth: Men only orgasm once

Reality: Here’s the scoop: whilst it’s widely accepted that men only have one orgasm per session, that’s a totally limiting myth. Whilst many men are one and done, multiple orgasms are totally possible when the focus is shifted to pleasure and away from rules.

Myth: Men don’t need foreplay

Reality: Despite the stereotype, many guys appreciate and benefit from it. Foreplay can boost arousal and make the whole experience way more satisfying.

Myth: Men are always satisfied after orgasm

Reality: Some people assume men are always satisfied after an orgasm, but that's not always true. Emotional or relationship issues can leave some guys feeling unfulfilled or even disconnected after sex. It's not all about the climax.

What should I do for national orgasm day?

To get those much-loved O’s in the making, delve into our tips below to spice up the session.

Water play: Enjoy a steamy bath or shower, alone or with your partner. The warmth and water can enhance sensations and make for a deeply enjoyable experience. Turn things up a notch with a waterproof vibrator and get wild.

Sexy songs: Create a playlist of your favourite sexy songs and let the music guide your movements and rhythm in the bedroom until you reach that sweet crescendo.

Sensual massage: Give each other a slow, sensual massage. Use oils or lotions and focus on exploring each other’s bodies, building up to a mutual climax.

Dirty talk: Experiment with dirty talk. For singles, practice out loud what you’d like to hear whilst you’re having a solo session. For couples, exchange fantasies and dirty talk whilst you’re doin’ the deed.

Edging game: Practice edging by bringing each other close to the big O multiple times without going over the edge. That final release will be so intense, and oh-so-good.

Love,
AS x