What Is Light Bondage? Light Bondage Ideas and Techniques
Looking to add something new to your sex life? Ever found yourself getting curious about BDSM or power play? Light bondage is just the thing for you.
The world of BDSM and bondage can all feel a little overwhelming if it’s something you’ve never tried before, but it’s a world well worth exploring. Bondage doesn’t need to be intense or intimidating and, despite what Mr. Grey led you to believe, you definitely don’t need a ‘room of pain’ or thousands of pounds of professional equipment to enjoy dominance and submission.
Light bondage allows you to explore power play, bondage and your kinkier side at a pace that suits you. Want to give it a go? From how to bring it up with your partner to light bondage techniques to get you started, here’s everything you need to know.
What’ is Light Bondage?
Light bondage lets you turn up the kink in a more subtle way, dipping your toe into the world of bondage and experimenting sexually with a partner. Light bondage can include power play, restraint, pain play and sensory deprivation in milder forms. It’s not all chains and whips – instead, think of it as ‘entry level’ bondage.
Light bondage is slightly less intense than traditional bondage, so can be a great way to dabble and try something new. Light bondage can be a gateway into kinkier bondage, if that’s something you’re interested in, but it absolutely doesn’t have to be about that. Just because you want to try light bondage, doesn’t mean there’s any pressure to progress to anything more extreme – light bondage can simply be a fun, new way to play in the bedroom.
If you’re completely new to the world of bondage and BDSM, our Beginners Guide to Bondage is packed full of information.
Light Bondage for Beginners
First things first – safety and consent. These are key with any sex, but with bondage or BDSM in particular it’s important to establish clear boundaries with your partner.
This means a conversation should definitely take place before you jump into light bondage. If you’re not sure how to bring it up, try dropping some hints or asking them questions about their kinks. Plant the seed and get them used to the idea, then it won’t come as a huge surprise when you ask them to try light bondage with you. If you’re struggling to bring up the topic, our Talking About Sex With Your Partner guide is full of advice.
Before you get started with light bondage, discuss your interests and boundaries. If you’re trying bondage for the first time this conversation is vital – what one person defines as ‘light’ bondage may be completely different to someone else, so make sure you’re both on the same page. Bondage and BDSM, even in their lighter forms, are all about control and power exchange, so it’s important you’re 100% comfortable, trust your partner and communicate your limits.
For many couples dabbling in light bondage, a traffic light system works well. Green means ‘all good’, orange means you want to slow down a little, and red means stop completely. This allows you to communicate and establish what you’re comfortable with in real-time, without having to ruin the moment with lengthy conversations.
Easing Into It: Light Bondage Techniques
So, you’ve had the conversation, now it’s down to the fun stuff – light bondage techniques. Here are some light bondage ideas to get you going…
Start with dirty talk
Dirty talk can be a great way to test the waters and vocalise your fantasies. Aggressive language or talk involving power play, such as calling them ‘sir’ or ‘mistress’ can turn up the heat and help you figure out what you’re comfortable with before you get down to the actual bondage. When it comes to any aggressive language or insults, make sure this is pre-agreed – if you use language they’re not into, it’s just going to be a major turn-off in the heat of the moment.
Explore restraint
If you’re interested in the idea of bondage restraints, why not ask your partner to try holding your arms down during sex? This is a safe way to see if you’re both into the idea of restraint before you run out to stock up on restraint equipment.
If you enjoy it and more restraint is on the cards, there are plenty of options when it comes to light bondage restraints. You can opt for soft restraints or specialist bondage rope, or try handcuffs if your knot tying skills aren’t up to scratch – there are even soft velcro cuffs for a non-intimidating option. For more advice on finding the right restraints, head over to our Choosing Bondage Restraints guide.
Orgasm Control
If you’re looking for light bondage ideas, orgasm control, denial and edging are a way to assert power and dominance in the bedroom. This involves the dominant partner taking the submissive right up to the point of orgasm before stopping and continuing to tease them – done right, it can truly drive you wild! The great thing about controlling your orgasms is you don’t need any toys or equipment to try it out, although a wand vibrator or some light restraints can definitely add to the intensity of the experience.
Sensory Deprivation
We’ve all heard that depriving yourself of one sense can heighten others and, if you’re looking to get into light bondage, sensory deprivation is an excellent starting point. We’d recommend starting out with simple blindfolds. Once the submissive is blindfolded, you can be as firm or as gentle as you choose. While some enjoy pain play, you may prefer a seductive massage or to have your partner tease your erogenous zones. Again, you can choose to combine blindfolds with restraints to heighten the power play.
Play with pain
Pain is a common part of BDSM and bondage. It can be quite intimidating if you’ve never done it before, but once you find the pleasure in it, you’ll be hooked!
Of course, not many people enjoy extreme pain, and the point of pain play isn’t for anybody to get hurt. If you’re looking for light bondage pain play ideas, why not start with some gentle hair pulling? This can help you test the waters of pain and understand your limits.
Once you’re comfortable, you can move onto light spanking. Start with hands, then switch it up with paddles or light whips when you know the levels of pain you’re happy with. To help make spanking the most pleasurable experience possible, check out our Guide to Spanking.
Turn up (or down!) the heat
Temperature play can also help you explore subtle pain and different sensations during sex. Ice cubes are perfect for teasing erogenous zones and bringing a range of new sensations, while candles and hot wax are a kinky step up on the BDSM scale. If you’re trying wax play, make sure you opt for a specific wax play candle – they burn cooler to ensure a safe yet pleasurable experience.
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