How to Use Bondage Equipment

Thinking about trying bondage?

Bondage is an amazing kind of bedroom power play, falling under the BDSM umbrella. BDSM refers to a few different aspects of power play, including bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. Your BDSM play could focus in on specific aspects of these or combine them. If you want to learn more about the basics, our Beginners Guide to BDSM explains what BDSM is and its various disciplines.

In this piece, though, we’re focusing on the ‘B’ aspect. Yep, today it’s all about bondage. From how to tie bondage rope to the best bondage BDSM gear, strap yourself in (literally!), because things are about to hot up.

How to Try Bondage

Never tried bondage before and want to give it a go with your partner? The first and most important thing to do is communicate. Gently open up the conversation with your partner and see how they feel about bondage. We’d recommend starting subtle, perhaps “how do you feel about tying me up?” rather than launching straight into the intricacies of BDSM.

If your partner is up for it, start slowly. Experiment with some light bondage, such as tying each other up with a scarf or using a tickler for sensation play. If you try it and feel like bondage is for you, take things to the next level and get yourself some bondage equipment.

What are the Different Types of Bondage Equipment?

If you’ve never delved into the world of BDSM before, or even for those who already have, the masses of BDSM gear and equipment out there can feel a little daunting. So, when it comes to bondage equipment, where should you begin?

As with most things bedroom related, it really is up to you. Bondage is all about being adventurous, discovering what turns you and your partner on, and having fun together (with a handful of orgasms thrown in as a bonus!).

If you’re looking for inspiration on your own bondage adventure, to find out more about how bondage works, or to step up your bondage game, we’re talking through some of our favourite adult bondage equipment options and how you can use them. Here’s a list of our favourite BDSM equipment for bondage…

Blindfolds

Blindfolds

Blindfolds are a great way to deprive your senses and dip your toe into the world of sensation play. If you’re just getting started out with exploring bondage, a blindfold or mask allows you to get playful with your dominant or submissive side, without feeling too daunted by complicated new toys.

Handcuffs

Handcuffs

If you’re thinking of taking things up a notch or two with your bondage play, handcuffs are where it's at. Bondage is the aspect of BDSM that is all about restraints – simply put, either you or your partner being tied up during sex. Handcuffs allow you to get kinky and see how you feel about bondage play without any scary or intimidating equipment. You can choose velvet-soft bondage sets and super-soft fluffy options or turn up the heat with leather or metal cuffs – it’s totally up to you.

Bondage Clothing

Handcuffs

For many, a huge part of the bondage and BDSM experience is all about the clothing. Bondage clothes can help you look and feel your most seductive, taking your bondage experience to new, thrilling heights. Wet look bondage clothing is one of the more popular options – you can choose from kinky hold-ups or naughty crotchless bodies to add an additional sexy element to your play.

Whips and Ticklers

Whips and Ticklers

Bondage is all about experiencing sensations at the hands of your partner, and sensation play really comes into its own when you’re all tied up. While you may associate BDSM and bondage with pain, sensation play can mean different things for different people and you don’t have to go straight in with whips and paddles. For example, if you’re new to bondage, ticklers and lightweight floggers can be dragged lightly across the body to tease your partner into submission. Of course, if you do want to whip your partner into shape, you can explore whips, riding-crops and silicone floggers that will do just that.

Nipple Clamps

Nipple Clamps

If you’re a fan of nipple play during sex, you absolutely must get your hands on some nipple clamps. Nipple clamps are commonly used during bondage to heighten sensations. As the sensations from nipple play activate the same part of your brain as clitoral stimulation, nipple play can feel incredible – you might even achieve an elusive nipple orgasm!

You should make sure your nipples are erect before applying clamps, so have your partner tease the area first with their hands or tongue. Once applied, your partner can gently tug at the clamps, or pull them off completely for an intense rush of blood to the area that will make everything feel just amazing.

Like what you’ve felt? You can take things up a notch further with a kinky nipple and clit chain.

Gags

Gags

Bondage and restraints are all about deprivation, and how it can be used to increase other sensations. Along with blindfolds, gags are a popular tool for bondage. Ball gags are especially popular; they come with a plastic or rubber ball that fills the mouth of the wearer and limits speech for the ultimate in power play. Don’t worry – you’ll still be able to moan!

Rope

Rope

And finally, we have a bondage classic – rope. Bondage rope is specially designed to be gentler on the skin that your traditional DIY options, and can be used for securing the wrists, ankles or body in a variety of ways. You’ll be totally at the mercy of your partner, and we guarantee you it’ll feel incredible!

How to Tie Someone Up in Bondage

Whether you’d like to tie your partner up or be tied up yourself, a little restraint in the bedroom can lead to a whole load of fun. As we’ve discussed, there are multiple ways you can go about tying somebody up in bed. Scarves and soft handcuffs provide a gentle introduction to restraint play, while heavy-duty handcuffs, bars and bondage rope are great for those with a kinky flair.

First things first – if you’re tying someone up or being tied up for the first time, communication and trust are key. You may find that once tied up, you don’t enjoy the sensations like you thought you would, and that’s fine! Even if you’re trying out rough play, ‘good’ pain and ‘bad’ pain are two very different things. Prepare a safe word with your partner. That way, if you have any second thoughts or don’t like the way something is heading, you can quickly communicate this to them and stop.

If you’re looking for how to tie bondage rope, here are our top tips:

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Keep it loose. The idea with bondage is to restrain. It shouldn’t necessarily be uncomfortable (unless you want it to be!) Make sure you’re leaving a couple of fingers width gap between the rope. It should be tight enough to feel restrained, without cutting off circulation.

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Keep it together. Restraint play should always be enjoyed together. This means no going away and leaving your partner tied up alone! The un-restricted partner should always be on hand and ready to release the rope, cuff or restraint.

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Keep it safe. Research knots to make sure you’re able to release your partner if needed, and never tie knots in a way that might restrict the ability to breathe. We’d recommend keeping a pair of blunt scissors to hand nearby, just in case you need to release your partner quickly. And, if you’re using a ball gag or cuff alongside rope, agree a non-verbal ‘safe word’ so you can communicate any issues.

Whether you’re a bondage pro or trying it for the first time, feeling helpless at the hands of your partner can lead to a world of new adventures in the bedroom. Once safely restrained, you can tease and tantalise with hands, mouth, toys, or through penetration. Just keep communicating throughout and prepare for some mind-blowing orgasms!

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