We all know the G-spot, that holy grail within us women that some spend years searching for, and with good reason. Packed with nerve-endings, the G-spot can help us achieve truly mind-blowing orgasms, but is there an equivalent for men? Well, enter the P-spot (literally)!
The P-spot, otherwise known as the prostate gland, is located within the male rectum and, just like the G-spot in women, can open the door to a whole new world of pleasure for men. But where is the P-spot and how do you find it?
This guide will tell you everything you need to know about this most pleasurable of places, arming you with the knowledge you need to expand your anal bag of tricks and drive him wild.
The prostate gland is a small walnut-sized area just behind the bladder. As great as the prostate is for giving intense, wild orgasms, that’s not actually its primary function. The main function of the gland is to produce seminal fluid, the same fluid that mixes with sperm and forms male ejaculate.
So that’s the science part done, but where is the P-spot and how do we find this thing to make his toes curl with pleasure?
Well, about three quarters of a finger into the anus you should be able to feel this slightly firm walnut-shaped area. As we mentioned, the P-spot is located just behind the bladder, so you’ll need to press in that direction in order to find it.
Once you do locate it, he’ll know about it! This means you should be keeping a close eye on his reactions and body language. We always say this when talking about anal, but communication is key.
And please, at the risk of us sounding like a broken record, make sure your finger is well lubricated before you enter! Just grab a big bottle of lubricant and get ready to explore. Our How to Use Lube guide will tell you everything you need to know to get things slippery..
Once you’ve found this holy grail of male sexual pleasure, the next challenge is to massage it, a process sometimes referred to as prostate milking. When it comes to how to milk the prostate, the best place to start is the outside. Just like G-spot play, prostate massage requires a little bit of warming up. Here are a few steps to get you going:
Get Lubed Up
First things first, use plenty of lube on that finger to make sure the whole experience is as pleasant as possible for your partner (or yourself, if you’re going solo).
Between the anus and the scrotum, you’ll find a smooth area of skin known as the perineum. If you apply a little pressure to this area using two fingers, you’ll essentially be massaging the prostate externally, making it the perfect way to get started.
Analingus, or rimming, is another great way to relax your partner and build up to prostate massaging. Make sure your partner is clean and follow the steps in our Guide to Rimming to get the most from this.
Ease Your Way In
Starting with one lubricated finger, gently and slowly enter the anus. Massage around the opening and gently slide a fingertip inside. This will help relax them into the whole process, which is key for any sort of anal play.
Don’t Forget the Penis
Even though we’re talking about anal play here, it’s vital not to forget the penis. Make sure you’re stimulating the penis throughout. This will contribute to the release of dopamine, which plays an important role in relaxing the muscles of the sphincter – something that’ll be vital when massaging. A handjob or blowjob will set those relaxing wheels in motion!
The ‘come hither’ motion is a well-known technique for hitting the female G-spot, and it can be just as effective here. Once your fingers are comfortably inside, the come hither motion should be angled toward his bladder… and there you should find the P-spot. With this motion, remember that a very slight bend of the fingers is enough – bending them too much can be very uncomfortable.
Take Your Time
Massaging the prostate should start to feel great for your partner, but don’t expect him to erupt with pleasure in no time at all. You’ll need to be patient and take your time.
Prostate milking with the fingers can be one way to ensure you’re hitting the spot, using your own feel to help guide you. However, there are several toys that are specially designed to hit the spot when it comes to prostate massage.
A prostate massager specifically targets the prostate, sending intense vibrations straight to the area and bringing him to big climax in no time. These toys can make solo play much easier. With the fingering technique you might require a little more double-jointedness, whereas a prostate massaging toy can hit the spot for you without needing you to bend your wrists in two!
When using a prostate massaging toy, you should follow similar steps to the ones above. Start by using the vibrations on the perineum before working your way to the opening of the anus. As always, make sure there’s plenty of lube before sliding your toy in.
Prostate stimulation can be one of the best ways to take a man’s orgasm to the next level. Just get those fingers and toys lubed up and explore!
If you’ve not experimented with lube yet, trust us - you’re missing out on a whole world of pleasure! In our guide we cover the why, how and when to use lube.
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