How to Last Longer in Bed Naturally

We all want to please our partners and make them feel incredible between the sheets (or anywhere else you might fancy a fumble) but peaking too soon can get in the way of everyone’s fun. It can lead to frustration for your partner but also for you - we’ve no doubt their pleasure is really important to you, as it should be in an equal relationship. If you find yourself asking ‘how can I last longer in bed?’ You’ve, ahem, come to the right place.

There’s a difference between coming quickly and the medical condition ‘premature ejaculation’. If you ejaculate before entering your partner or climax within a minute of penetration, this would be considered premature ejaculation (PE). Medications and therapies are available, but you should always speak to your doctor before taking any medication that states it can help with PE.

If you find your sexual encounters are ending too quickly, or even if you simply want to up your sexual stamina and increase your average time, here are some tips to last longer in bed that might work perfectly for you.

Tips and Tricks for Lasting Longer in Bed

There are various tools you can use and exercises to help you last longer in bed naturally. In more extreme circumstances when premature ejaculation is causing issues in your relationships, you might also benefit from prescription medications such as SSRIs, but this is something you should discuss with your doctor. Let’s have a look at some ways you can increase your sexual stamina without medication.

Wear a Cock Ring

As well as making your member look somewhat more engorged, a cock ring compresses the area around the base of the penis and testes, this restricts blood flow and may help when it comes to lasting longer in bed.

Wear a Condom

Aside from the health benefits, condoms are also great at reducing the mind-blowing sensation of entering your partner. That little rubber sheath could be your best friend when it comes to lasting a little longer in bed.

Try the Stop Start Technique

The stop-start technique (or the ‘start-stop method) is a technique used to delay ejaculation. Essentially you stop whatever stimulation you’ve got going on before reaching orgasm. Whether your partner is on top, and they read the signals (or you tell them to stop) or you have control of the movements and stop yourself before you get too carried away. Once the impending climax has subsided, you can get going again. This process can be repeated multiple times to prolong sexual activity and potentially delay climax.

The downfalls are:

  1. It’s not easy to stop once you’re about to hit the epitome of pleasure, it takes a lot of self-control
  2. For those with vaginas to reach orgasm through intercourse alone, that continued movement is a must. So, you might want to ensure your partner has climaxed in another way before you get to penetration. It’s worth mentioning that most people with vaginas confirm penetrative sex isn’t what gets them there anyway, it’s all about the clitoral stimulation. Add a cheeky bullet vibrator to the mix and you’ll be golden, trust us.

Invest in a Male Masturbator or Fleshlight STU

Fleshlights and male masturbators are sex toys for men that have vaginal-like inner texture and design. With a good helping of lubricant, these game-changing toys feel just like the real thing. They were designed for pleasure and masturbation, but some have realised that using a male masturbator has helped them last longer in bed. Some even call them a Fleshlight STU which means Stamina Training Unit.

Regular use of a Fleshlight can provide a form of stamina training. By gradually building up your endurance and controlling your arousal, you may be able to increase your overall staying power during sex with your partner or FWB. They help you get a little more used to the feeling of penetrative sex so when the real thing comes along it’s less of a novelty. It still feels incredible, but not to the point you can’t handle it and get over excited.

Let’s All Bang the Foreplay Drum

Foreplay is important for couples. You can use your hands or mouth, or really spice things up by bringing some sex toys along for the ride…and you can both thank us later.

As we’ve touched on already, many trans folk/women with vaginas are unable to climax from penetrative sex alone. In fact, the percentage of women who orgasm from intercourse is around 25%, if that. Whilst penetrative sex feels amazing, it’s just not always the way women get to the promised land. So, use this to your advantage. Send her to climax heaven with life-altering foreplay and how long you last when it’s your turn will be far less important.

When it comes to male-on-male foreplay, a prostate massager can do things a penis can’t. We’ve got, vibration, remote controlled, small and large, all with the same goal in mind – ultimate P-spot targeting. Alternatively, if you feel like you’re going to find the holy grail the moment you enter his, a strap on dildo can help delay your orgasm as you make sure he gets there first. After all, it’s good to be kind.

And for extra feels for them, a naughty butt plug will up the ante.

We hope these tips and tricks on how to improve sexual stamina help you give and receive the best sex you ever imagined. Try a few and see what works best for you. Remember, communication with your partner or playmate is key and if you’re really concerned about premature ejaculation you should speak to your GP. There’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about and future you will be eternally grateful!