How to Stimulate the Clitoris: My Journey to Self-Discovery

We’re all about empowering you to explore your desires and embrace your sexuality. Real stories from real people can be the most enlightening, so here’s a candid account of one woman’s journey to discovering the full potential of her pleasure.

Discovering My Vagina

At 33, I’m getting to know my clitoris and finding new ways to orgasm, here’s my story…

Coming from a family of medics, discussions about health were commonplace. I recall my dad casually mentioning condoms, which made me blush, and my sister once showing me a book filled with images of STDs. While masturbation wasn’t a topic I discussed with friends, my sister once said, “You know you can touch yourself – it’s OK.” That simple affirmation made me realise it was normal.

Growing up, I didn’t pay much attention to my vagina. I knew what felt good and what didn’t, but I never really explored it. Even though I was comfortable with masturbation, expressing my desires in the bedroom was a different story. It wasn’t until university that I realised I didn’t know how to communicate what I wanted. I often found myself with dominant partners, letting them take the lead without voicing my own needs.

In school, we were presented with a standard diagram of female anatomy, implying that all vulvas looked the same. Nobody said there were variations. It wasn’t until an ex-partner, who enjoyed going down on me, mentioned, “I think you have a hidden clitoris. There’s a hood.” I was puzzled. After some research, I discovered that while most clitorises are hooded to some extent, some are more so, making them ‘hidden’ or ‘embedded.’

This revelation was eye-opening. I realised that my anatomy was perfectly normal, just different. Understanding this helped me make sense of past experiences where clitoral stimulation didn’t lead to orgasm. It wasn’t about me being unresponsive; it was about understanding my unique body.

In my current relationship, I’ve found someone who truly understands the art of giving. On our first proper date, as we lay on the sofa, his touch was unlike any I’d experienced. His hand found my clitoris through my clothes, and the sensation was electrifying. He managed to make me orgasm with just his hands, without even knowing about my ‘hidden’ clitoris.

This experience was transformative. It made me realise that with the right touch and patience, pleasure is attainable. Now, this has become our favourite form of foreplay. He takes joy in giving, and it brings us closer together.

I’ve learned the importance of being with someone patient, gentle and attentive. My boyfriend sees my unique anatomy as a delightful quirk, not a challenge. In previous relationships, I relied on penetration and sex toys for orgasm. But now, we’re taking things slow, focusing on foreplay and deepening our connection. It feels more intimate, almost tantric.

Discovering our bodies and understanding what brings us pleasure is crucial for a fulfilling sex life. Taking the time to explore and communicate can lead to more satisfying experiences.

Whether yours is hooded, hidden, or begging to be explored, clit stimulation isn’t one-size-fits-all – it’s an art. One that deserves time, touch and plenty of teasing. The more you learn what makes your body tick, the more powerful your orgasms become. That’s where we come in.

From flavoured lubes to toe-curling vibrators, our sex essentials are designed to help you get up close and very personal. Whether you’re flying solo, guiding a partner or inviting a new toy into the mix, we’ve got everything you need to make your clit the centre of attention.

So go on, start your own journey. Discover what makes you melt.

Love,
AS X

Discovering our body and learning how to best give ourselves pleasure is an important part of our sexual wellness. This example just shows how taking the time to discover what we do and don’t like will lead to better sex and a more fulfilled sex life.

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