Bedroom Rituals: How to Deepen Sexual Intimacy in the Bedroom

Sexual intimacy is all about how we become closer with our partners in the bedroom. Physical contact, emotional vulnerability and shared passions can all help increase the sexual intimacy and also deepen your emotional bond outside the bedroom.

Intimacy is such an important part of our relationships so discover the bedroom rituals you can initiate to deepen your emotional and sexual intimacy between you and your partner.

How to Increase Intimacy in a Relationship

When your intimacy levels lower in your relationship, it often leaves you both laying on either side of the bed longing to be touched. This usually doesn’t change on its own but there are some simple steps you can take to get on top of this (and each other) in no time.

Talk About Your Relationship

If something’s missing, or something has changed, it’s time to chat about it. This doesn’t mean you have to dump your deepest secrets onto your partner, it should just be about being open and honest. Whether works got you down or there’s something on your mind stopping you from getting it up, it’s always better to share.

Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

Before you get under the sheets, it’s important to actually talk about sex, your expectations and needs. What’s working? What’s not? What would you like to try?

The early stages of a relationship are often filled with experimentation and exploration which can disappear once you get stuck in the same sex habits. Often there’s a reason why intimacy leaves a relationship and talking about sex can help you find it.

Still struggling to discuss intimacy? Why not check out our guide all about discussing sex with your partner.

Deepen Emotional Intimacy

Whether you’re looking to ignite intimacy, or bring back a lost spark, the emotional connection between you and your partner is essential. If you want to understand their physical needs, it’s important to first understand their emotional ones. Spending time together and actually talking is the best way to learn about their emotional desires.

The Best Questions to Ask Your Partner to Increase Intimacy

When you’re talking about the most intimate part of your relationship, you have to choose your words carefully. Here are a few questions to get the ball rolling, but the rest is up to you.

Questions to Increase Emotional Intimacy

When beginning to rediscover the passion in your relationship, you’ll want to ask questions which encourage you to both open up, rebuilding your trust and bringing you closer together.

• “What makes you feel loved?”
• “What makes you feel supported in a relationship?”
• “What’s your love language?”
• “What’s one thing you love about me?”
• “What was your first impression of me?”

Questions to Increase Sexual Intimacy

Once you feel that the trust between you both has been restored, you may be comfortable talking about your sex life. These questions can be fun and flirty, helping you find that heated excitement from when you first met, or deeper conversations to understand your partner’s needs and desires.

• “What’s a sexual fantasy you’ve always wanted to try?”
• “What makes you excited about having sex?”
• “What do you find sexiest in me?”
• “What is something during sex that makes you feel close to me?”
• “How do you feel sex has changed since we first met?”

Bedroom Rituals to Increase Sexual Intimacy

Intimacy isn’t just about talking, once you understand your partner’s desires, it’s time to rediscover the physical intimacy which once left you both breathless.

1. Slow it Down

Foreplay can help to set an intimate mood without rushing through it. Kissing, stroking and teasing not only help make sex more intimate, but taking your time often makes the ending all the sweeter.

Foreplay is all about going at a pace which suits both of you. Whether that’s a seductive massage or teasing kisses across the body, make sex something worth waiting for.

2. Share your Fantasies

Once you feel comfortable and trust has been restored, it’ll be much easier to be vulnerable with each other. Listening to each other talk about your fantasies, kinks or desires will help you understand your partner better (inside and outside the bedroom).

We aren’t telling you go into every detail if you don’t want to, but simply talking about a couples toy you’d like to try or a certain position may be enough to remove any taboos around discussing sex in your relationship.

3. Try Something New

After talking about what makes you tick, it’s time to put it into practice. Intimacy is all about understanding what you both want so start off slow and introduce new ways of satisfying each other’s desires whilst bringing you closer together.

4. Schedule Sex

Spontaneity is often sexy for many people, but when sexual intimacy is an issue, a bit of planning can make this easier. Look, we’re not talking about a formal RSVP but just arrange an evening for the house to be empty when you know neither of you will be burnt out from a busy day and go from there.

If you miss how your sex life was at the start of your relationship, why not try dating again to rediscover each other, all whilst wearing something they’ll want to rip off you as soon as you get home.

5. Reintroduce Romance

Eye contact, shared sensations, and rhythmic breathing can all help to bring romance back into your sex life. Show your partner that you simply can’t take your eyes off them and trust us, they’ll feel it.

If intertwining your sexual energy and engaging all senses is what you both need to reignite your intimacy, our guide on tantric sex will be perfect for you.

As we age and grow, our relationships do too. This means our emotional and physical needs also change and, when these aren’t addressed, we can lose our intimacy. But remember, passion can be rediscovered as quickly as it was initially found. Rediscover each other’s sexy side and watch as you fall in love all over again!