Advanced Bondage Guide: Extreme BDSM

Are you looking at taking your BDSM play to the next level?

With 69% (a very fitting number) of people admitting to fantasizing about having dominant and submissive sex*, BDSM has proven to be one of the most popular kinks worldwide, and with BDSM day just around the corner we’re celebrating with our advanced bondage guide. We have all you need to know - from what extreme bondage is, some extreme bondage techniques and how to get started!

What Is Extreme BDSM?

If you’ve successfully introduced BDSM into your relationship and find yourself longing for more, then we have good news for you, it doesn’t have to stop at just handcuffs and blindfolds. Extreme BDSM opens the door to a wide range of accessories and dynamics which leaves no room for repetitive, unexcitable sex.

Bondage is a very common element of BDSM, but it’s important to keep in mind that there is a big difference between light bondage and extreme bondage gear. Whilst light bondage is about enjoying subtle restraints, advanced bondage switches it up a level with more intense equipment, from spreader bars and nipple clamps, to gags and more extreme restraints. It often involves taking your love for dominance and submission a step further and introducing more pain and pleasure play.

Advanced Bondage Techniques

If you feel ready to take your kinky play to the next level, take a look at some of the most popular extreme bondage techniques.

Edge Play

Edge play is all about breaking the boundaries, it is the act of pushing or being pushed over the edge and way outside of your comfort zone. It involves kinky play with riskier activities to experience pleasure and arousal, often by using knives or needles to increase the sense of risk, whilst sometimes conflicting pain by breaking skin or causing bleeding. But it is a type of BDSM play that can look different for everyone depending on what puts them on edge, so experimenting is the best way to discover what edge play really means to you.

Electro Play

Electro play is one of the most intense forms of play and can be extremely pleasurable when done right. It involves the use of electrical stimulation for torture or erotic enjoyment, but don’t be put off, it uses low-electrical currents so cannot cause any serious harm and you are likely to only feel a tingle or slight shock. It is done by attaching connection leads to a power box which will amplify an electric pulse when touching the skin of yourself or your partner. People often feel intimidated by the thought of using electricals but it is a great way for advanced bondage players to turn it up a notch.

Impact Play

Very similar to spanking, impact play is striking your partner to stimulate the nerve receptors in their skin which ultimately triggers feel-good endorphins. Whilst impact play can be soft, there is opportunity to take it further and use things such as floggers, or paddles, whilst incorporating restraints or roleplay, which can lead to more intense impact. You can make impact play as light or as advanced as suits you and your partner, so enjoy experimenting and seeing how much pain you can take.

How to Get Started with Extreme BDSM

If you’re a bondage beginner we would recommend firstly dabbling into light bondage, with our Beginners Guide to Bondage and BDSM. But if you’re a light bondage pro who’s ready to turn it up a notch, we have some key tips to safely spice up your playful sex life and make things even more exciting in (or out) of the bedroom.

Communication Is Key

It’s good to know your limits and confidently communicate them to your partner, but also communicate what you want to experiment on. It might be that you both want to try the same thing but are too hesitant to ask - if you don’t ask you don’t get right? Clearly communicating to your partner what you would like to try will put you both on the same page. Whether it be trying different BDSM toys, bondage positions or techniques, the more open-minded you are with your partner, the more opportunity there is to intensify your experience.

Choose a BDSM Safe Word

As with every type of BDSM, choosing a safe word is extremely important. A code word or signal that implies you want your partner to stop immediately, will give you both the confidence to get more experimental, with the reassurance you can stop at any moment if you’re no longer enjoying it. We would recommend choosing a word that is completely random and not something you might use under normal circumstances like ‘stop’ or ‘no’, just to avoid any confusion when you’re in the moment. So, make sure you have both agreed on a safe word before trying any form of BDSM, to help keep yourself and your partner happy and able to fully enjoy the experience.

The likes of erotic films such as Fifty Shades of Grey, have influenced people’s perception of modern BDSM and fetish culture, to being more widely understood and accepted. And we’re loving it! Extreme bondage takes it a step further, using a darker, seductive approach, which alternates between conflicting pain and pleasure on your partner. Not only has it been said that performing BDSM techniques improves your health, but it can also help deepen your connection with your partner through the trust and intimacy that you experience together. Advanced bondage techniques, such as edge play and electro-play, enable you to get a clear understanding of your partners sexually fantasies as well as their limits.

Above all, make sure you are careful and safe when participating in any type of extreme bondage, especially for the first time!

*https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6525106/#:~:text=Studies%20reporting%20on%20individuals%20having,fantasies%20about%20BDSM%2Drelated%20activities.