In an ever-increasing virtual world whereby sex can take on a new form, what actually is virtual sex, why do we need to do it, and is it any good? There are many reasons why people may choose to take part in virtual sex these days so we’re here to explain a little more about it alongside our top tips, and top sex toy picks for that all important virtual time between the sheets!
Virtual sex is where you discuss and/or perform any sexual activities with another person but via a phone call, videocall, text conversation or any other virtual format where you aren’t in each other’s presence physically. Virtual sex may involve you describing your sexual actions and tantalising and teasing your partner to turn them on.
There may be a number of reasons you have to / want to have virtual sex – from long distance relationships to the impact of national lockdowns or even just for a bit of fun when you’re spending the night away from your partner. Virtual sex can also be an exciting option for you to explore, be adventurous and have a little fun with your sex life.
Being in a long-distance relationship, whether it’s because one of you works away or you live in a different city / country, is one of the key reasons people have virtual sex – because, well, what else are you going to do? Sex is a huge part of a relationship and if you aren’t in each other’s presence physically, then you’ve got to play with what you’ve got – yourself, and your partner’s words and actions!
Long-distance relationships can be hard and put a huge strain on a relationship as you may both be feeling the pressure, so you’ve got to have fun to keep that all important intimacy and passion alive! While you’re counting down the days until you’re next reunited, add some adventure and experiment with virtual sex.
Virtual sex can help make you feel connected to each other even when you’re apart, so physical distance doesn’t necessarily mean sexually distant.
The idea of virtual sex can be a little bit intimidating at first but just take a breath, relax and follow our top tips for a fun night of passion via the phone.
Communication is key
In every way possible! Before you have your hot date night, communicate with each other about what you both want to get from the experience. Being nervous is totally normal, so discuss your boundaries and your likes and dislikes, this way you can avoid feeling uncomfortable and know your limits.
Communication during is also very important – tell each other how you’re feeling, what you’re doing, ask them what they want you to do. Seeing as you can’t touch each other physically, communication is all the more important!
Set the mood
And get the vibe right! You don’t want distractions like a messy room, loud noises or unwanted intruders ruining the vibe, this will make you uncomfortable! Dim the lights, light some candles and put on a little background music to put you at ease – it will make all the difference, trust us.
Use sex toys
Being apart means you haven’t got much to play with physically, so make sure you throw some sex toys into the mix to really heighten your virtual sex experience. More on that next...
We could be here all day fighting the case for every sex toy and why it would be just perfect for virtual sex, but we’ve rounded up our top 3 sex toys and how they can help elevate your long-distance pleasure.
Bullet vibrators are perfect if you’re a virtual sex beginner or don’t feel as comfortable going in full force with the sex toys on camera. They’re small and discreet so using one of these may not feel as intimidating when on a virtual video call. Even though they’re a discreet toy, they have a fierce kick that will really make you feel the buzz during your virtual night of passion.
Our baby – we may be biased but this is a must have, especially if you’re feeling that little bit more confident to go with something larger. The Rampant Rabbit ® combines a vibrating dildo with a bunny-eared bullet; meaning you’ll get that deep penetration whilst still achieving mind-blowing clitoral stimulation. Use this on yourself, and it will be the ultimate tease to your partner, leaving them gasping for more.
Now what would be more perfect for a steamy virtual night of passion than a sex toy that your partner can control? The We Vibe Chorus Remote Control Couples Vibrator gives the other person full control via an app on their phone meaning they can control the vibration settings for you – let them drive you wild! Alternatively, you can play solo and tease them with this via the touch-sense control panel that shifts along with your movements. Either way, you’re in for a treat.
So, whether you’re a beginner in virtual sex, or a total expert – we hope we’ve helped you in some way. Don’t be scared when heading into the virtual sex world, it’s a great way to explore your likes and dislikes and keep the spark alive when you’re away from one another. Don’t forget to follow our top tips and tricks and you’ll be in for a ‘virtually’ amazing night!
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