What is rimming

What is Rimming?

Rimming, otherwise known as analingus or a rim job, has seen a sharp rise in popularity in recent years. Once seen as an unhygienic and somewhat taboo sexual practice, more and more open-minded and experimenting couples are trying their hand (or tongue) at rimming. But what is rimming and is it even pleasant, or safe, for that matter?

Well, if you’re getting curious about rimming and want to know more, we’ve got you covered. Here’s everything you need to know about performing a rim job.

What is a Rim Job?

Put simply, rimming is sexually stimulating your partner's anus using your tongue. This can mean licking, kissing or penetrating it. Just like any sort of anal play, there’s plenty of pleasure to be had, whether male or female. The anal walls and anus itself are full of nerve endings, meaning that rimming can feel fantastic and add a naughty new element to sexual activity.

Just like trying anything new in the bedroom, rimming for the first time can be daunting, whether giving or receiving. All sex requires good communication between both partners and honesty when it comes to limits, and this is just as important when it comes to rimming. Make sure that you and your partner have discussed the idea before trying it, nobody wants to be caught off guard by an over-zealous partner!

Don’t rush in! Remember that, although rimming may be part of foreplay, there’s no need to just go for it. Just like penetrative sex, work towards rimming and don’t dive in. This gives both of you time to feel relaxed.

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Is Rimming Unhygienic?

The simple answer? Not if you don’t let it be! As with any anal play, cleanliness must play a very big part. When it comes to rimming, due to the direct contact between the tongue and anus, it’s important to ensure that you’re nice and clean.

There are obviously extra risks associated with rimming, as faecal matter and E.Coli are found in the anal area. Ingesting these things can obviously make you ill, but don’t let that put you off, ensuring you’re clean and exercising a little caution around this should avoid any illness.

You might hear people saying that you need to go extra cautious with your preparations, including anal douches and more. Whilst everyone is free to do that, it’s not necessary. Having a thorough wash beforehand will suffice. To help everyone relax a little, you could even combine a shower or bath with foreplay. Getting soapy and steamy together will act as foreplay, whilst giving you both the peace of mind that you’re nice and clean.

How to Give a Rim Job

Giving a rim job is just like any type of oral sex… Well, obviously, it’s a little different. The same basic rules apply though. Here are a few tips to help you up your game, learn how to rim and make yourself rimming royalty.

Number 1

Start Off Slow

They say only fools rush in, and this applies to every part of sex. Take your time to build up to rimming, ensuring you’re both fully prepared and relaxed.

Number 2

Get on their Nerves

Make the most of those nerve endings around the anus. Just as you would when performing cunnilingus, use your tongue to tease around those sensitive areas and gradually increase the pleasure.

Number 3

Mix It Up

The tongue is a powerful muscle and can be moved into numerous different positions. Make the most of this when giving a rim job. Make it flat, pointed, flick it, push it, and just generally mix it up!

Number 4

Listen to Your Partner

Another one that should always apply but can be particularly important here. Listen out for the noises they make, that’ll help you figure out what they do and don’t like. Follow their lead and you’ll be onto a winner.

Number 5

Lube Up

Lube isn’t just for penetration. Try using some flavoured lubes to make things a little more interesting for the giver.

These are just some basic ideas to help you give a great rim job, just remember that everyone has their own preferences, likes and dislikes. Be open to figuring these out and adapting to what your partner wants.

Rimming Positions

So, you’ve had the discussion and decided to give rimming a try, but what position can you get in to make the most of it? Well, we’ve got a few options to spice up your analingus… and any other oral activity, for that matter.

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Four on the Floor

Four on the Floor is the perfect position for rimming. With both you and your partner on all fours, you’ll have all the access you need to give or receive some next-level anal pleasure. It also provides you with perfect access to plenty of other erogenous zones.

Riding High

Riding High

The Riding High position truly places you in control of oral sex. This position is all about straddling your partner over their face whilst they’re laid back. Although originally designed for cunnilingus, just shuffle yourself up a little higher and its perfect for rimming.

Full Frontal

The Full Frontal

Another position that was originally designed for cunnilingus but can work just as well for rimming. Whereas in the original version you effectively be sat on your partner’s face, just scoot up slightly and let them get rimming.

Don’t get us wrong, rimming isn’t for everyone, but it can add an exciting (and very pleasurable) element to foreplay. Just like the perfect blowjob or spot-on cunnilingus can set the tone for an amazing session, rimming can do the same. If you think it could be something you enjoy, forget the old-fashioned attitude that rimming is ‘dirty’ and try something different.