Bisexual Threesome Tips: How to Have an MFF or MMF Threesome

For some people, the thought of a threesome is the ultimate fantasy. Whether you’re inviting someone extra into a couple or experimenting with friends, making it two men and a woman, three men, three women… the opportunities are endless. Throw into that the opportunity to explore your bi-curious or bisexual side, and things can get even more exciting and potentially more confusing.

Don’t fear, we understand that throwing an extra person into the mix can lead to all kinds of questions. We’ve got plenty of experience to share to help you navigate these tricky waters and ensure your bisexual threesome experience is one to remember for all the right reasons.

MMF, MFF, FFF, MMM: What Does it All Mean?

Ok, so some of the language used when describing threesomes can seem a little like it’s written in code if you’re not familiar with it. Before we go on talking about MMF and so on, we’ll clear that up. These acronyms are simply an easy way to write down the make-up of a threesome, for example:
MMF – Male, Male, Female
MFF – Male, Female, Female
And so on…

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General Threesome Tips

Our How to Have a Threesome guide is full of useful tips when you’re preparing for a threesome. We’ll concentrate for the most part on the bisexual aspect of a bi threesome, but here are a couple of things to remember:

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Discuss Beforehand

All threesomes require every person to be clear on what they want and expect. This can be even more important if you’re in a relationship with another member of your threesome, as it can be easy for someone to become jealous or realise in the moment that it’s not quite what they expected.

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Choose Your Third Wisely

Introducing a third person into the mix can be tricky, so you need to choose number three wisely if you’re a couple. Picking a close friend or someone ‘you’ve always fancied’ can be a dangerous game, so it might be worth finding someone completely new with no existing relationship. A dating site or swingers’ website could be a good place to start.

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Communicate Throughout

This applies to any area of good sex, but communication is vital before, during and after. If one of you is feeling left out, uncomfortable, wants more or less of something, then speak up and let the others know.

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How to Have an MFF or MMF Bi Threesome

There are plenty of things to consider before getting down to business, and planning is the best way to assure your threesome is successful. Here are a few tips to get you started:

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Decide What You’re Looking For

If you’re in a couple, it’s important to figure out what you’re looking for. This decision will be based on which one of you wants to explore their bisexuality (if it’s both of you, the same rules apply… just for foursomes!).

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Set Boundaries

When it comes to a bisexual threesome, it’s important that you’re all clear on the rules beforehand. Establish who can play with who and what you want from your threesome. For example, if your male partner wants to try bi play, you may not both feel happy playing with your third and it might be ‘boys play only’ while you play with your partner.

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Beware of Jealousy

Sometimes things seem more fun in theory than they do in reality. Discuss what you’ll do if you or your partner begins to feel jealous throughout your threesome and ensure you feel comfortable mentioning it throughout.

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Keep It Clean

By the very nature of a threesome, there is a much higher risk of passing on any STIs or STDs through sex. If you are using shared toys or a male is penetrating more than one person, make sure you wash any toys throughout and use condoms, swapping them before changing partners.

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Remember the Aftercare

In any threesome that involves a couple, aftercare is vitally important. This can mean talking and being intimate with your partner, helping keep that bond between you both and remove any lingering doubts.

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Don’t Judge

Exploring your bisexuality should be an exciting thing to do, so if you’re in a bisexual threesome make sure you don’t judge anyone. If your partner decides they want to do something in the moment that you didn’t expect, try not to judge them and, unless you find it upsetting, try to positively support them.

Bisexual Threesome Positions

Changing up your sex life and adding a third can also add some logistical challenges (a great problem to have!). Your classic two person positions will now need to accommodate a third body. Don’t worry though, there are plenty of ways to make this work by adapting those favourite sex positions, and we’ve got all the tips you’ll need to do it!

MMF Sex Positions

OK, so MMF sex adds another penis to proceedings and, if you’re going for a bisexual threesome, oral sex or male penetration might well be on the agenda. Some of these positions are ideal with an extra body in there too…

Push & Pull Sex Position

Push & Pull

This position is an adaptation of the classic doggy style, but with lots more interesting angles. A little extra lube makes this position even more exciting. You can read the full description of Push and Pull here.

Adaptation: This position is ideal for a threesome as the person receiving is free to pleasure another person. Whether this be another male or female, they can just sit up on the edge of a bed or sofa and receive oral pleasure. Everyone’s a winner!

The Praying Mantis Sex Position

The Praying Mantis

The Praying Mantis is a perfect penetration position, just have your partner lay on their back with a pillow under their hips. Once you’ve penetrated, lift one leg over your shoulder and you’ll find yourself at a new and extremely pleasurable angle. The full instructions for The Praying Mantis are here.

Adaptation: For adding number three to the mix, your receiver is in the ideal position for some face-sitting oral. As they’re lying back being penetrated by one person, simply have the third person squat over their face. You can also use a dildo to penetrate them.

Riding High Sex Position

Riding High

An oral position that puts the person on top in complete control, Riding High is ideal for a threesome. Simply have one person lay down and get on your knees on either side of them. You can then prop up their head with a pillow and take complete control. Find out more about Riding High here.

Adaptation: As the ‘giver’ in this position is laid on their back, it’s perfect for a third person to get down and provide them with oral. Two out of three receiving oral ain’t bad!

MFF Sex Positions

When it comes to an MFF bisexual threesome, there might be a little more oral going on, or a strap on dildo involved. However you choose to do it, there’s plenty of fun to be had with this kind of threesome!

The Full Frontal Sex Position

The Full Frontal

The Full Frontal is a face sitting position where you’ll be able to explore all of your bisexual oral desires, whether you choose to go on the top or bottom. Just have your partner lie back and straddle them with your legs, then they can either deeply penetrate with their tongue or play with your clit. For a more in-depth explanation of The Full Frontal click here.

Adaptation: As one of you rides the other to oral heaven, the third person can get to work on some penetrative sex. The one giving oral is lying in the perfect position, just pop a pillow under them to prop up their hips and away you go.

Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position

Reverse Cowgirl

This is a position that needs very little introduction, the classic Reverse Cowgirl. You can either do this girl-on-girl with a strap on or have the male lie on the bed and ride him. Just in case you needed it, here are some more Reverse Cowgirl tips.

Adaptation: It doesn’t matter who goes where in this position, whoever is the ‘cowgirl’ is perfectly placed to give oral to the third person, stood over them, as they bounce away!

The Hummingbird Sex Position

The Hummingbird

This oral position has one person on their knees, whilst the other gets on their hands and knees and provides oral pleasure. For all-female, just lean back a little to make access to your vagina much easier.

Adaptation: As you’re down on your hands and knees, you’re perfectly positioned for penetration. Either a female with a strap on or the male can get down on their knees and double the pleasure.

A bisexual threesome is the perfect opportunity to try out new urges, new sensations and new positions. Making sure you have a plan before your threesome and find the right people to share it with is vital – after that it’s all about having a great time!