Advice on Relationships and Love
Here are a selection of some recent Dr Love letters sent in
Dear Dr Love
What is the best Foreplay?
Dear Julia,
The largest sexual organ isn't between your legs, it's between your ears! You don't even have to be in the same room to start the mental process of sexual arousal. Get each other thinking about sex long before you touch, and your orgasm will have all day to build and bubble. Mental foreplay is particularly good if you are in the mood for quickie sex - the more sexually charged you are by the time you meet, the deeper into the stages of non-contact arousal you'll be by the time you meet in the flesh. Call your partner and describe in detail the things you'd like to do to them - if you like the idea of talking dirty but the phone makes you tongue tied, take advantage of text or email.
Sex Tip
Research has shown that loud, thumping music actually gets your heart rate up and your blood pumping, so turn up the bass, turn up the volume and turn yourselves on!
Dear Dr Love
What is the Big L?
Dear Joseph,
You get your partner to lie on her side with her legs at a ninety degree angle to her torso, so that from above her body forms an L shape.Then you kneel on the bed, hips aligned with her hips to steady yourself (you can also hold her hips to steady yourself). She parts her legs slightly to allow you to penetrate, and them squeezes them together to give the penis a delicious massage as you thrust in and out. It can be hard work keeping her legs clamped together during intercourse - crossing them at the knee or ankle can help with this.
Sex Tip
Your partner can twist her upper body so that she is lying on her back, but keeps her legs to one side - this way you can combine the snug rear entry physical sensations of this position with face to face contact.
Dear Dr Love
I have heard of the back flip - what is this
Dear Kevin,
The Back Flip is an advanced version of the Spoons position - he lies on his back and penetrates her from behind while she's snuggled on top of his body, facing away from him. In this position, he's got great access to her breasts and clitoris and this position will make him feel incredibly masculine as he thrusts, supporting her weight. It's also a good position for her if she finds it easier to climax when you are not face to face. When she does orgasm, he'll feel the contractions of her anus and perineum becuase his penis is close to the back wall of her vagina.
Sex Tip
If you are a fan of al fresco sex, this position aloows you to soak up the sun on your skin while you sin!
Dear Dr Love
I vote for the Quickie as being the best sex ever
Dear Jean,
The Quickie is the perfect position for those moments when you just can't wait to get to the bedroom, and is designed for maximum orgasms in minimum time. She sits on a surface about the same height as his pelvis and wraps her legs around his back. If there's no available kitchen workstop or desk, you can make love up against the wall, but this offers less support for both of you. She pullls her skirt up and pushes her panties to one side while he unzips his flies or drops his trousers. The thrill of having a Quickie can speed up the female sexual response meaning she comes in a fraction of the time she would normally take. Her weight is supported by the worktop, so all her energy can be put into her performance. This also gives him more scope to thrust.
Dr Love's Guide to Oral Sex
♦Make sure you are both shower fresh before starting
♦Vary the techniques you use each time - variety is good!
♦Have a glass of water to hand to refresh your mouth if you get tired. Experiment with other drinks too. Take a sip of Champagne before giving your lover a special kiss and let the bubbles do the work.
♦Try rimming - the fine art of using the tongue to stimulate the anus.begin with soft licks along the perineum and gauge your partner's reaction. If the moans are encouraging, stiffen your tongue and gently probe further.
♦Trim your pubic hair before oral sex - it's easier for your partner to pleasure you if they don't have to bite their way through layers of undergrowth.If a man and you have a beard, soften it with hair conditioner.
♦Enjoy yourself, whether you're giving or receiving. And afterwards, don't forget to tell your lover how good she/he tasted and smelled.
♦You are what you eat. Just as smoking, alcohol or spicy food can give you bad breath, they can also have a negative taste down below. Changing your diet to include lots of frsh fruit makes ladies sweet and juicy and semen taste fresh and appetising.
As usual, never do anything you are not comfortable with.
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