Bondage for

beginners

Ever thought of trying it? Follow our beginner's guide to soft bondage and discover everything you need to kink up your sex life.

With erotic novels filling high street book shops, it seems everyone's interested in having kinkier sex. Sex toy sales have soared in recent months, and we don't think they'll be slowing down anytime soon.

Ever fancied trying it? You're not alone - bondage has become deliciously mainstream. If you're put off by the thought of leather masks and pain, however, don't panic. BDSM - that's Bondage, Discipline and Sadomasochism - covers some seriously kinky practices, but to begin with, amateur bondage can be a naughty night in without the bruises. Here are our baby steps to kinking up your sex life, without a gimp mask in sight.

The Basics

Be prepared

If your sex life is usually at the 'vanilla' end of the spectrum, bringing bondage into the equation can be daunting. Ultimately, bondage is down to trust - either putting yourself in your partner's hands, or taking control while they're in a vulnerable position. Before you grab the handcuffs, get yourself somewhere private and relaxed, and have a no-pressure chat.

Know Your Boundaries

Once you've decided to take the plunge, consider your personal boundaries. If you don't like pain, then don't go there - it's not a requirement. Many BDSM enthusiasts like to agree on a 'safe word' that will stop whatever you're doing, straight away. Start soft - focus on enhancing their senses with teasing floggers and satin-soft cuffs.

Have fun with it

When used properly, bondage techniques can be a brand new pleasure trigger that inspires trust, creativity and adventure in your sex life. If the sight of the paddle makes you cringe, then steer clear. Always focus on enhancing pleasure for both of you. After all, sex is supposed to be fun!

Getting down to it

So you've talked it over and bought your cuffs. What's next?

Show Some Restraint

Getting all tied up is a good place to start. If you don't know which role you prefer, take it in turns. It's the dominant party's job to take control, and use their creativity, imagination and power to control and draw out the pleasure for both of you. Use the element of surprise. Blindfold him so he's forced to sharpen his senses; misdirect with a touch here, a touch there, then straddle him without touching at all. Mix things up and use every tool at your disposal.

Sense and Sensibility

Get inventive about ways to stimulate your partner's senses. With their sight and movement limited, try taste, and bring some chocolate syrup or sharp fruit into play. Tease them with gentle breaths to create suspense, and experiment with temperature play. Want to take it up a notch? Spanking makes the blood rush to the surface of the skin, making the nerves tingle and your skin feel extra-sensitive. Start with your hand before graduating onto sexcessories like paddles, and careful of your aim - go for the meatiest part of the cheek and thighs.

Play A Role

Role play is a real multitasker - it adds a sexier twist to your bondage play and can help ease you into it, too. If you're feeling a little self-conscious, stepping into someone else's shoes can take the pressure off. There are endless combinations to play with, from BDSM classics like master and slave to doctor and patient, teacher and pupil or police officer and criminal. If you're nervous, it's a good idea to pick the dominant role, which will let you fake it 'til you make it. Your confidence, that is.

KNow your sexcessories

Floggers

Floggers feature trailing tresses that can come in soft materials, designed to tickle, tease and stimulate the senses.

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Crops and Paddles

If you're ready for some serious spanking, invest in a crop or paddle. Not as scary as they sound, there are plenty to choose from for maximum pleasure and minimum pain.

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Ticklers

Feather ticklers are all about the sensation. The delicate feathers brush against ticklish, sensitive skin to make your senses come alive.

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Restraints

Even the newest bondage kit needs some restraints. Try sliding rope, soft cuffs or ties that are gentle against your skin and won't leave any tell-tale marks.

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Blindfolds

Blindfolds are an amazing way to heighten your senses, leading to a more intense, stimulating experience.

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