The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Massage

We’ve all heard of the G-spot, that holy grail inside women that some spend years searching for, and with good reason. Packed with nerve-endings, the G-spot can help women achieve truly mind-blowing orgasms, but where is the male G-spot? Well, enter the P-spot (so to speak)!

The men’s G spot, otherwise known as the prostate gland, is located within the male rectum and, just like the G-spot in women, can open the door to a whole new world of pleasure for men. But where is the P-spot and how do you find it?

This guide will tell you everything you need to know about how to find the male G-spot, how to massage the prostate and more, arming you with the knowledge you need to expand your anal bag of tricks. Whether you’re wondering how to massage your prostate yourself or your other half is intrigued by prostate stimulation and wants you to be a part of the fun, read on to discover full-body orgasms and a deeper sexual connection.

Firstly, What is the Prostate Gland?

The prostate is a gland that produces seminal fluid and is a key player in reproduction. This fluid mixes with sperm from the testes to help the sperm travel safely and easily to its destination – the uterus. For context, imagine trying to go down a flume or water slide without any water…wouldn’t work, would it?

Where is the Prostate?

The prostate gland sits just behind the bladder and, as well as performing its vital primary function in reproduction, is known for giving intense, wild orgasms when it’s stimulated.

So that’s the science part done, but how do you access the P-spot for toe curling pleasure?

Well, about three quarters of a finger into the anus you should be able to feel this slightly firm walnut-shaped area. As we mentioned, the P-spot is located just behind the bladder, so you’ll need to press in that direction in order to find it.

Prostate Milking – The How, Why and Where

If you’re giving your other half a prostate massage, you’ll be in no doubt you’ve hit the right spot when you get there. Make sure you’re tuned in to his reactions and body language as this area is (wonderfully) sensitive and if these sensations are new, they can take some getting used to. We always say this when talking about all forms of male anal stimulation, but communication is key.

Of course, if you are massaging your own prostate, you’ll know exactly what feels good.

One of our top tips, whether alone or with your playmate is to make sure your finger is well-lubricated before you enter! Just grab a big bottle of lubricant and get ready to explore. Our How to Use Lube guide will tell you everything you need to know to get things slippery.

How to massage the prostate

Once you’ve found this holy grail of male sexual pleasure, the next challenge is to massage it, a process sometimes referred to as milking the prostate. When it comes to how to milk the prostate, the best place to start is the outside. Just like G-spot play, prostate massage requires a little bit of warming up.

Prostate Milking – The How, Why and Where

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Get lubed up

First things first, use plenty of lube on that finger to make sure the whole experience is as pleasant as possible for your partner (or yourself, if you’re going solo).

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External warm-ups

Between the anus and the scrotum, you’ll find a smooth area of skin known as the perineum. If you apply a little pressure to this area using two fingers, you’ll essentially be massaging the prostate externally, making it the perfect way to get started.

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Try oral

Analingus, or rimming, is another great way to relax your partner and build up to prostate massaging. Make sure your partner is clean and follow the steps in our Guide to Rimming to get the most from this sexy, taboo act.

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Ease your way in

Starting with one lubricated finger, gently and slowly enter the anus. Massage around the opening and gently slide a fingertip inside. This will help relax them into the whole process, which is key for any sort of anal play.

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Don’t forget the penis

Even though we’re talking about anal play here, it’s vital not to forget the penis. Make sure you’re stimulating the penis throughout. This will contribute to the release of dopamine, which plays an important role in relaxing the muscles of the sphincter – something that’ll be vital when massaging. A handjob or blowjob will set those relaxing wheels in motion – we hope you’re good at multi-tasking

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Come hither

The ‘come hither’ motion is a well-known technique for hitting the female G-spot, and it can be just as effective in attaining a P spot orgasm. Once your fingers are comfortably inside, the come-hither motion should be angled toward the bladder… and there you should find the P-spot. With this motion, remember that a very slight bend of the fingers is enough – bending them too much can be very uncomfortable – take it sloooow.

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Take your time

Massaging the prostate should start to feel great for your partner, but don’t expect him to erupt with pleasure in no time at all. You’ll need to be patient and take your time for them to have a chance of reaching a prostate orgasm.

How to Have a Prostate Orgasm

Whether alone or with your other half, achieving the allusive prostate orgasm is something that takes a little work. If you’re new to anal exploration, it’s really important to take your time. Go too hard or too fast straight out of (or into) the traps and you might feel discomfort or possibly even pain, so take it easy and listen to your body if alone, or their cues if giving your other half a prostate massage.

Prostate milking with the fingers is one way to ensure you’re hitting the spot. However, there are several toys that are specially designed to help in achieving an Earth-shattering prostate orgasm. A prostate massager specifically targets the prostate, sending intense vibrations straight to the area for a powerful climax. These toys can make solo play much easier. With the fingering technique, you might require a little more double-jointedness, whereas a prostate massaging toy can hit the spot for you without needing you to bend your wrists in two!

When using a prostate vibrator, you should follow similar steps to the ones above. Start by using the vibrations on the perineum before working your way to the opening of the anus. As always, make sure there’s plenty of lube before sliding your toy in in and clean with sexual hygiene products afterwards.

Do Straight Men Enjoy Prostate Massage?

Plenty of heterosexual men engage in a bit of posterior play with their other half. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a straight man exploring this new realm of pleasure either alone or partnered. What makes it that bit sexier, that bit naughtier, and that bit more tempting is the taboo nature of anal play.

What Does a Prostate Orgasm Feel Like

From what we’ve been told, a prostate orgasm feels different to a penile orgasm as the pleasure feels like it’s spreading throughout the whole body, rather than being centralised in the groin area. A prostate orgasm builds and builds and can take longer, but the feeling as it builds is more intense than that achieved from penis play alone.

Interestingly, you might orgasm but not ‘come’. It might be that you release fluid from the urethra similar to semen but not quite the same. Don’t worry if this happens, it’s totally normal.

Prostate stimulation and prostate massage sex can be one of the best ways to take a man’s orgasm to the next level. Just get those fingers and toys lubed up and explore!

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